What is it?

“The source of authentic power to bring forth your best life, express the fullness of your creativity, and have the biggest impact in the world is within you—just waiting to be awakened and unleashed.”

–          Katherine Woodward Thomas & Claire Zammit, founders of Feminine Power

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about “feminine power.”  Though I love the term, I’m still a little unclear about what it means.  I do a lot of domestic violence work and therefore, I am constantly aware of the push-pull that exists in society regarding male and female norms, socialization, role expectations, relationship and family dynamics, etc.

I think sometimes we prefer speaking in gender neutral terms to ensure “equality.”  I can certainly appreciate that.  But, ignoring the differences between the two seems to still diminish their significance.  There is a difference and I like acknowledging it.  Perhaps the emphasis should not be placed on how alike the two are, but on how the two are equally valued, though they are different.

I am currently reading a book called “Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Lives.”  I’ve just started the book, but already Evan Stark makes a wonderful point.  The women’s movement has made tremendous socio-political strides and we are very grateful.  But, perhaps up until this point it is due to learning to “fit” within the context of masculinity.

We are now considered (on certain levels) “equals” to men … but I believe the “equality” is measured with the stick of the masculine standard.  It is good for a woman in her career to show less emotion, more logic and perhaps even a certain measure of aggression to “climb the ladder.”  It shows that she makes a “good man” despite … being a woman.  LOL  All of this was a start, and maybe necessary to get to where we are now … but there’s still more to be done … and I’m wondering if it is part of the key to helping reduce the abuse women face in their intimate relationships …

I believe we have our own standards, and our own definition of “power”.  But, what is that, though – exactly?  What is feminine power?  I’m curious …

Any thoughts out there?